Yeah, not this year. Nah Nah. Can’t have it. You won’t.
Why? Really? Today is the day where the entire world points out that you are still single and that maybe there’s something wrong with you. You see, the pressure of today of having everything figured out and a perfect plan for the night is real. You need someone. Anyone.
It’s like “it’s ok” that you are single the rest of the year but today, you just don’t suit that much the snuggling atmosphere. You’d better try to look busy before the universe laughs at you (what the heck, universe?). Besides, we are sold the message somehow that if you love someone, you must buy them something expensive today, if not, do you even like them? Cards, flowers, chocolates, and lingerie. It just drives me nuts. So if you don’t have ”the person” you’re pretty much excluded from the day. Or you can see it from my friend point’s of view
-Ale, I am just waiting for the tons of cheaper chocolate of the following day.
Yes, that’s the spirit, be my friend on this Valentine’s! Ok, maybe not. But the point is that no matter how much we try to tell our friends, mom, rest of the family, grandpa, grandma, (
and then more grandma) that you are doing actually fine on your own without a relationship, you might suddenly start wondering at some point
Am I BROKEN?
Kidding. I hope (HOPE) you are not actually wondering that. But maybe
Am I missing out? Could it be something wrong?
Even if you are in a relationship, I wonder how many of you were hit by fear of not seeing today, so the fact that your crush still finds you interesting to this day deserves a cute-full-boasting Instagram post #couplegoals, right? Maybe you’re actually happy with each other, but you reckon love should be celebrated every day (well done, human). Or maybe you are broken-hearted, and this unfortunate celebration just brings some bitter memories along with the stinky loneliness. Wherever you are at, it’s clear that Valentine’s day never tells the whole story.
So why do we bother?
Valentine’s day is supposed to “celebrate love” however, I am not entirely sure to what extent it does so. The way love seem to worth how much you spend, your value residing in whether or not you received many secret love cards and your little child’s heart breakdown when you realize you didn’t receive that paper rose from your primary school crush, makes me not really appreciate it.
Yes, the struggle was real for me at 9 years old. I had a crush on my best friend for a few years, but I was always the cheerleader of the friend zone. Every year, in Valentine’s day, the school organized a solidary sale of really cute paper roses so kids could buy them for their little sweethearts for 1 euro.
Looking at the other girls finding bunches of roses in their lockers somehow made me wonder if there was something wrong with me.
On the other hand, Valentine’s day is a day when the expectations to have a ”romantic” night is much higher than usual and some couples might actually really care about each other, but love becomes secondary in many couples around the world tonight, and what I need becomes primordial. You see, it is not that important who you are with tonight, but the fact that you are not alone. Because you are with someone to make yourself happy, that’s the point, right?
Then how to forget our lovely friends that feel sorry for you and try hard to get you involved
Oh sure honey you can be in the picture, don’t be daft, but could you first take a bunch of just the two of us? Ouch.
I know I know, I’m just moaning but hey, today I’m allowed to do that, let me be, okay?
I’m merely joking, don’t be alarmed. But maybe the point I am trying to get across with is that despite I might have never received a paper rose, I did learn something priceless along the way.
Your life does not start when you find ”your person”, but when you start being ”the person” God designed you to be. And don’t get me wrong, finding your special best friend along the way and enjoy the journey together sounds pretty awesome to me, no wonder why God planned it that way, to begin with, but singleness is another season of life, a very crucial one actually that might well define how we’ll do in the next season. So embrace it. Take the most of it. Learn as much as you can and keep discovering the gift in all circumstances. And please remember, It wasn’t your brilliant idea of companionship. It is a good desire to have, there’s nothing wrong with that, but just maybe set your eyes higher and have the bigger picture in mind. Don’t settle for cheaper love-like feelings, but be fearless and choose Love, real love. But, how on earth can we know how does love looks like? Let me give you a hint.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It ALWAYS protects, ALWAYS trusts, ALWAYS hopes, ALWAYS perseveres.
Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-9
I don’t know about you, but life is messy and complicated enough to start improvising on some basic things in life. In matters of Love, I prefer to trust the designer.
If only I could travel back in time and reach out to that girl of the mixed feelings and let her know that there’s nothing wrong with her, that even those endearing quirks are dearly loved.
Today you didn’t receive a rose, but your Father has already given you the garden. A world full of roses, starts, and boreal lights. For you. You know what? He’s got your back. I know, what about the ‘‘ugly” part, the brokenness, the back and forwards of your heart, the selfish feelings, and the messy decisions? Well, He also wrote a love letter for you. It’s not very long, but his heart was poured fully into it. It says Jesus.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Trust him with your brokenness. He has a bigger plan. He’s got this.
And why not
-Come, let’s go for ice cream.
So, yeah, those are the reasons why I won’t speak about Valentine’s day. Don’t you even get me started.
Do you have any funny story about Valentine’s day? Maybe a funny dating experience? I’d love to hear your thoughts!