I frowned. 2017 came stomping around, loaded with what appeared to be dummy questions and new life-changing answers. One of those questions was this one:
Are you really here?
While reading a Christian book (Captivating-Stasi Eldredge), there was one two-words advice almost at the end of the chapter that caught my eye.
Be present? –Sure!– I thought, but these two words started taking root in my heart. I can’t describe how despite the fact I was not sure at all what it meant exactly, I could feel like I was about to unwrap something priceless and urgently needed for my life. I continued on reading and discovered an unpleasant reality –how much absent I can be every day.
How often my mind would be somewhere else when I needed to be right there where I was: With that person, in that place, doing such thing.
When I was somewhere I wanted to be elsewhere. When I was with someone, I wanted to be with someone else. When I achieved something, I was thinking already about the next thing, and so on and so on… And let me give you a word for that.
I was (and still working on it) the girl of the “what if’s” and of the “I will be happy when(…)”.
I will be happy when I move to Scotland.
I will be happy when I get into uni.
I will be happy when I get married.
I will be happy when I have my own family
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
I reckon I can be a professional complainer and forget about being thankful. It’s funny how you can live all your life doing something you think is normal and then realise there’s a far much better option. A simple switch in the way you think can act wonders!
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do ALL to the glory of God.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but does not have love, I am nothing.
We usually get so caught up in our list of “things to do”, admirable desires and big intentions, but these two verses taught me that it doesn’t really matter what I do but the way I do it is what counts, from a loving heart that gives its 100% as if God himself would be directly receiving my actions.
“It doesn’t matter what you do, but the way you do it.”
Lastly but not less important
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.
I asked my mom once that I wanted her to give me somewhat like “the advice of the day”, but it had to come from her heart.
-You take your time, it has to be something like really deep, you know?
I have it!
-No, take your time.
I already have it!
If I learned something is that even the good things have their own time. Classic example? I have found myself thousand times dreaming awake during my lectures or reflexing things that have nothing to do with my subject (
like planning the next blog oops!), but now this may come to my mind…
“Ale, stay here, be present!” And that takes a decision.
Wherever you are, be all there.
Some thoughts to finish…
Are you really listening? Listening requires intentionality and intentionality is essential to be present. If you want to know someone’s heart, listen carefully what they say. Some insecurities and struggles are not evident at first sight, but someone could be screaming for help in tiny pieces of conversation. You see, I have two brothers of 10 and 25 years old, so they are my mine of gold when learning valuable lessons like patience (kidding). They are somehow my guinea pigs so I’ve been trying to listen carefully, wholeheartedly every time we have a conversation for the last couple of months. Trying to leave what I am doing and really listen (yes, scrolling down in social media is included).
Ideas for future video games, the warfarin small doses hid in the street to kill rats (you’d better not ask), how he feels when is not included in an adult conversation and how he feels when he studies alone during the nights… A few examples of what I was missing out before, taking them for granted. What’s the point of listening few random information even when it feels like nonsense? Well, that ”nonsense” is part of their lives too and the hug I receive after putting up with these two weirdos (count me in) is always worth it.
Even a small chat can become a great opportunity to know something new about someone. You don’t know how sweet can be a gentle word. Appreciate the people you have around. Love them, but love them well.
What have we to offer, really, other than who we are and what God has been pouring into our lives?
-Captivating by Stasi Eldredge
I will be happy when… I stop waiting and start living because Life is that thing that happens while we wait.
So now you know, be present, we need you here today!
Do you have any more practical ways to be present ?
What do you think would change if we were more present?
I would love to know your thoughts on this topic!